Denial is " An unconscious defense mechanism characterized by refusal to acknowledge painful realities, thoughts, or feelings." (American Heritage Dictionary). My friends faced their most painful fear, the thought that their loved son used drugs! There were two choices to make: either deal with the truth or refuse to accept the facts. The parents refused to acknowledge truth to spare themselves hurt. If they admitted that their son was a drug-user then they had to deal with their own pride in perceived failure as a parent, recognize that their son had a problem, deal with the problem and maybe lose their son permanently to the drug world.
I don't know the outcome, but I feel sorry for them. Being an "ostrich" may be consoling, but the only thing one changes is where there head is! They gave up good friends who could have helped them get through the ordeal. On the other hand, with denial they could have lived happily ever after. That's one reason people are in denial. It's much easier and the boat isn't rocked!
Proverbs 25:26 (ESV)"Like a muddied spring or a polluted fountain is a righteous man who gives way before the wicked."
A righteous person, who knows truth when under pressure, may give in to wickedness. Why would a righteous person cave in to what's wicked? It's easier than facing truth, because sin has consequences. Consequences usually mean dire results with depressed feelings. Acceptance (the opposite of denial) is the righteous way, but not necessarily the less painful!
Let's examine what is, but should not be, a controversial subject! I write on many things and get favorable responses on whatever I'm writing about. However, there is one subject where everyone is silent. If I mention abortion I can hear the pregnant silence! People just don't want to discuss what they know is wrong and prevalent.
Let's not argue when life begins. However, we do know that after 24 weeks an unborn baby is quite viable. Those babies born that early live healthy lives and eventually catch up to others in growth. I believe that we can all agree that a 24-week baby is a human being? (Fools may deny that, but I'm writing of rational people!)
Unborn babies are killed every day, oftentimes for poor reasons: poverty, Down's Syndrome, stress of the mother and any other excuse that can preserve "the mother's health" so they say. Let's admit it. Most of us sit idly by while millions of unborn babies are murdered and are with the assistance of the law and judges! What are you thinking? "I never thought about that before!" If that's your excuse you are in denial. Your head has been in the sand. You're an ostrich!
Others have thought about it, but deny the humanity of the unborn child. They tell themselves "It's only fetal tissue!" or some other readily accepted lie. Any one at all who knows biology and knows true law will tell you that an unborn baby is a human in the early stage of development and that civilized nations have always recognized that abortion is murder. Folks who reject this are in extreme denial!
In Nazi Germany people saw their neighbors herded onto trains and assumed the roll of ostrich. If they don't known for sure what's going to happen, why should they care about it? Millions died because Germans were in denial! They told themselves that Jews weren't fully human. They were told that Jews were parasites on humanity! These are the same reasons people are ostriches regarding abortion!
After the war the ostrich citizens who lived near the extermination camps were called in to witness the carnage and murder which happened there. After facing truth, and in no position for denial, they cried, they threw-up and were in horror at the atrocities occurring right in their back yards! If citizens in America were taken to the garbage pails of abortion clinics they would be so sickened that they would beg for changes in the law! Rather than being honored, judges would be ostracized for their inhumanity!
However, you won't see that happen. People are in denial. The rationale: Those unborn babies would have a life in poverty. Those babies with defects could never live productive lives. There are too many blacks already. Those young mothers' lives will be destroyed if they have an unplanned preganancy. Society will be better off without being over-populated... and the denial list goes on! The fact is that people desire to pleasure themselves at the expense of a life. That's the ultimate selfishness.
The time for "choice" is at the time of conception! If people obeyed God, unwanted babies wouldn't be an issue for two reasons: 1) People would quit fornicating and 2) people would plan children, not around pleasure, but around God's will!
Romans 12:2 ( ESV) "Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect."
Firstly, we're called to tell others of the grace of Jesus. That's not happening. Secondly, we tell those "Christians" that they aren't to be as the world is, but let God change them. What was once pleasurable will become anthema! Faith in God changes things. The mind is to be renewed. We are to discern what is in God's will. God's will is that we do good, acceptable and perfect things, not in the world's view, but His!
Is allowing abortions "conforming to the world"? Most certainly! Christian women get abortions because society accepts it. Some churches accept it! They have conformed. Likewise, "pro-choice" people have conformed. They put the civil concept of rabid "freedom" over God's sanctity of life.
Those in denial are not transformed. They hang onto the same old lies that they did before Jesus "reborn" them. Such people deserved to have their spiritual life "aborted", but by the grace of Jesus, he allowed them to be "reborn" and escape death.
Any Christian should know that abortion is not God's will! Not only does the Fifth Commandment say "Thou shalt not kill.", but the Bible even specifies penalties for causing an abortion!
Exodus 21:22 (ESV) 22 “When men strive together and hit a pregnant woman, so that her children come out, but there is no harm, the one who hit her shall surely be fined, as the woman's husband shall impose on him, and he shall pay as the judges determine. 23 But if there is harm, then you shall pay life for life, 24 eye for eye, tooth for tooth, hand for hand, foot for foot, 25 burn for burn, wound for wound, stripe for stripe."
What if Jesus had been aborted. We would never have been reborn! Chances are that because of evil, we would never have been born in the first place. What if even one of our forebears had allowed abortion? We would not exist today because we're a composite of all the ancestors we've ever had. The absence of even one would have thrown destiny to the scrap heap! Thank God for wisdom that preceded this evil denying generation.
So what can you do? Quit being in "denial". Accept truth: killing an unborn baby is murder. Quit voting for parties and politicians which allow, even sanction, abortion. Have Christian principles! Sign petitions to change laws. Write letters to wicked judges criticizing with civility their own denial. Write openly of your opinion. (After you have an opinion). Be an active Christian. Pray!