Most people just NEED someone. Those are the ones who panic when they don't have someone to claim. It doesn't have to be love. I may be for attention only. The victims of this malady called "serial dating" are those who go from one paramour to the next. Oftentimes, there is only a short time interval between partners.
Unfortunately, many people pay for serial dating with serial payment. The pay is the body! For a dinner and a movie, if one belongs to the "Serial Dating Club" after a few dates, then one is due a sexual reward. It operates the same as movie reward clubs! If you watch three movies, you get a free popcorn. With the Serial Dating Club, three dates and a movie means someone just may get "popped"! It has become an obligation, so it seems. After all, the man must be serious! He shows me all this attention! Buyer beware!
Couples who date can get close and have strong feelings for each other. There is hot blood flowing through the veins as the flesh anticipates satisfaction. People lusting for each other have an electric feeling which is the response of the body to desire. Before long a fire rages within! Lust becomes a craving. It's insatiable. That craving must be satisfied! People burn with lust. What shall they do?
1 Corinthians 7:9 "But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn."Paul dealt with the same problem in people that people have today. It's advice for everyone, not just Christians. It's the fair thing to do as well! Those who are burning with lust are encouraged to get married. They may choose not to, but there are consequences. "Burn" has a double meaning. People burn with lust, but as a result of illegitimate lust, their souls may burn as well!
"Let them marry"! What in the world is this old-fashioned idea?
Marriage is an institution ordained by God and here are several reasons for marriage:
- For companionship. (Genesis 2:20)
- To help and encourage each other (Genesis 2:20)
- To obey or please God (Genesis 2:24)
- For living as a team. (Genesis 2:24)
- To multiply or bear children (Genesis 1:22)
- For sexual enjoyment (1 Corinthians 7:2). [Sexual enjoyment is to keep the unit intact to avoid triangulation, aka adultery.]
- As an example of purity (Matthew 5:31-32)
- A commitment for an enduring relationship. (Matthew 19:6)
- As "picture" of our relationship to God (Isaiah 62:5)
There may be many more reasons, but you get the idea. Marriage means something! It isn't a man-made institution. It is of God! The decay of the institution of marriage is a disgrace. There is no reverence for God nor a desire to please him. "Just living together" is for self-pleasure and defies God who created mankind for His pleasure.
Let's compare! What does "just living together" provides?
- Sex
- Companionship
- Common quarters
- Economy
- Perception of being wanted
- Convenience
- Pleasure
- Children oftentimes
- Assistance
- Commitment
- Honor
- Love
- Trust
- Obedience
- Respect
- Unity
- Encouragement
- Exclusive relationships
- An example to others
- A structured and secure home for children
- Obedience to God
Of course "just living together" shows absolutely no love for God! Any person who claims to be a Christian, realizes that what they do in that arrangement is sin! Couples may rationalize their situation, but God doesn't buy into flimsy excuses!
There is another "love" which is abridged. Two people who "just live together" claim they love each other, but it's not love at all! When a man says to a woman "Let's just move in together!" he's saying in effect, "I don't love you enough to commit to marriage!" Men who do that are cowards. They are afraid of themselves. They are afraid they can't "hack it". They are right! Men who lack the fortitude to make a woman he claims to love, his wife, is a jerk! He's not marriage material and a woman should flee from this man! He's a danger to the life of the naive woman who buys such flattery.
We're called to follow God and make the devil flee. In this case, the woman must flee the relationship before it's consummated. This fellow represents the dark forces of principalities! Living with the forces of darkness whether in marriage or outside, would be a constant battle!
There's another type of burning as well! Women burn to fulfill their biological instinct to multiply which is what the womb is for, after all! Women burn to be a unit with a man she can call her own and together nourish their mathematical reproductions. Women need the RIGHT man for satisfaction in life and men need the RIGHT woman. A woman who will be deceived by the false promise of "just living together" may not be the RIGHT woman!
This medicine is tough to write and I'm sure it's tough to swallow. Many couples start out living together, and if they still are together, welcome to the world of miracles. Many of us have friends or family members who "just live together". Because the people we love do things, does not make things right and honorable. Sin isn't defined by who are the strangers. It's us all!
I'm the imperfect messenger here. I could write page after page of my own disobedience. However, anything and everything can be forgiven! God has the RIGHT man or RIGHT woman out there for you. It must be his will and done in his way and in his time. Help him, if you will, through obedience because God needs an incentive to serve us! That RIGHT man or woman may be boring, not the most attractive, have a few body flaws, will certainly have bodily functions, but love conquers all!
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